Girls and Football

For most of my life I've asked myself the age-old question: Do I want to date a girl that's into sports or not? Right? That question is totally age-old. Old as all the ages. I'm sure my parents spent many hours during their pre-marriage counseling wondering the same thing. How much will organized sports affect this eternal love?!

Well, if you don't know, I'm a Boston/New England sports fan living in Connecticut. Red Sox, Celtics, Bruins, Patriots, heck I even watch the New England Revolution soccer team (the 2 times a year they televise a game #angryemojiface.) Living in CT, you're on the front lines of the infamous Boston/New York battlefield. It's kinda the worst. So when you meet a girl here, you have a 50% chance that she hates your teams, if she cares at all. A 50% chance that when you say you like the Red Sox, she goes "EW OMG GROSS JETER IS BAE" because she doesn't know he retired (burn) and they post something like this on opening day.

I made that myself. You should be impressed. But anyway, now it's so much worse being a Patriots fan! Whether they care about sports or not, you mention Tom Brady WHO I LOVE SO MUCH and they're like "EW DIDN'T HE CHEAT OR SOMETHING" and I literally CAN'T EVEN. Like LITERALLY I will slap that pumpkin spice latte right onto your UGGs (WHO SPONSORS TOM BTW.)

Dashing. Just a stunning, handsome man. Wait, where was I? Oh right. LEAVE TOM OUT OF THIS.  You don't know he cheated. The NFL doesn't even know he cheated. Just stop, please. Say what you want about me, but leave my quarterback out of this!!!

 You probably don't even know what this meme is from!! Anyway, so these conversations have gotten old. Fast. Can I deal with a lifetime of Boston hate from the girl I'm with forever? I thought I could, but maybe I can't. But on the flip side, do I want a girl who also likes my teams? Do I actually want a girl that's going to be upset that the Red Sox pitching is SO BAD this year? Do I want a girl that's going to yell at the TV when Tukka Rask let's a stupid shot right at his chest trickle into the goal right after he basically did a headstand to stop a rocket to the net? UGH typical Rask. But I don't know that I want that either!

In truth, I don't think I want a girl that's just like me, but a girl that likes that I like what I like, and vice versa. Make sense? Like, I'm over there liking what I like and she's all like "I like that."

 I'm a pretty big personality (aka kind of annoying), so if I date someone that acts like I act and likes everything I like, the world might LITERALLY explode. Too much. Can't handle it. So I think I've found the perfect girl:

GIRL WHO DOESN'T CARE ABOUT SPORTS BUT LIKES GOING TO GAMES BECAUSE IT'S FUN AND SHE HAS A REASON TO WEAR ONE OF MY JERSEYS OR SOMETHING.

She'll watch a game with you when she has nothing better to do, but doesn't mind if you go and watch it with the guys. When your team suffers a crushing loss (like the Bruins losing the Cup to the Blackhawks on that STUPID last minute goal), she'll have the emotional stability to tell me everything will be ok and play with my hair and tell me I'm pretty. She'll be happy when I'm happy, sad when I'm sad, and she'll even be into things that I never have been into, but I like them because they make her happy. And isn't that what it's all about? Doesn't everyone want that person that cares about them so much that they want you to enjoy the things that make you happy? I think that's it. AWWWWSOCUTE. So, to all you genuine sports-loving ladies, sports haters, and sports non-carers, keep it up. Do your thing. In reality, it probably doesn't matter. But if it does, you'll figure it out. Also, I literally love everything about this picture. Everything. LITERALLY.

Pizza and Why Dating Is (and Isn't) Hopeless.

HEEEYYYYYY first blog of 2015! My blogs may not be regularly posted or scheduled, but at least they're stupid and useless. HASHTAG OPTIMISM.

I enjoy talking about dating, being single, the effects that has on our social media, etc., so why not stick to what I know (or don't really know), ya know? Apparently everyone my age is single. EV. RY. ONE. My social media is flooded with Pinterest quotes about what guys should know about women and how much we suck. I get it. If anyone knows singleness, it's this guy right here. 29 years old and all my shortest relationships were my most recent ones. Apparently 18 year old Dean was better at relationships than 29 year old Dean. That's right, THIS guy. (Sorry Tom for dragging you into this.)

Yeah, I don't get it either. But facts are facts, so now you know.

So now I'm on this long stretch of not being in a relationship, the family is concerned, Mom is trying to hook me up with every girl within 5 years of my age that breathes, my sister threatened if I didn't cash in on a Match.com Groupon she would make a profile for me, and I'm pretty sure my Grandmother thinks I'm gay. (She was super nice about it when she implied it so that was nice of her.)

All that is to say, I'm probably the only person NOT concerned about my love life. I've been down to hang out with girls, had some fun nights out that were good but there wasn't really that "spark" I'm looking for, met some really great people that I liked, just didn't LIKE. Not the best results, but not the worst!

Ladies on the other hand have to date guys, and we can be terrible. This is going to start like I'm making excuses for guys, but I'm not. Follow me here. If a girl isn't interested in a guy, she's out. Boom. Simple. We males on the other hand, I think we like a consolation prize. Like "Hey, she's not the one, but she's cool and cute so she can be the one for now." So after the date they're still down to cuddle, flirt, maybe even...

...get what I'm saying? So girls think "all guys want is one thing..." and they're right... it's pizza. But it's not that guys only want pizza, we also love that long-term girl who can provide so much more than pizza, but it's much easier to commit to a pizza for however long the pizza lasts than to sign up for that "THIS COULD BE FOREVER" situation.

I'M USING PIZZA AS AN ANALOGY FOR CASUAL OR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS.

Guys don't only want one thing. Every guy will meet a girl and think "OH MAN THIS IS REAL. THIS IS NOT A DRILL. THESE ARE FEELINGS AND I'M FEELING THEM." Then we freak out and start word-vomiting everything we think a long-term girl deserves to know like "I LIKE YOU AND THIS COULD BE FOREVER AND I DON'T KNOW IF I'LL BE A GOOD FATHER AND I CAN'T BUY A HOUSE YET BUT FOR YOU I COULD AND I HAVE BAGGAGE AND GOD IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME AND THAT'S PROBABLY WEIRD AHHHH!" Basically like this:

So now instead of the guy that doesn't talk to you enough, doesn't take things seriously enough, etc., you're dealing with this babbling, emotional nut job and you're all like:

And then you run away and we're all like:

We're boys. We're dumb. The middle-ground has never been our strength. But I'm just saying when a guy thinks it's real, he'll treat it like it's real. If he doesn't, well, run. Immediately. Easier said than done though. There's always THIS battle:

So dating is annoying and complicated and we all hate it, and it feels hopeless, right? Well it's not. Here's why.

Yes, you keep meeting the "wrong" person. AND YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO. That's why the RIGHT one, who is totally out there looking for you, too, is the right person. Not perfect, not flawless, but RIGHT, and not right for everyone, but right for you! That's the point! If every other guy/girl could be the one you're with forever, then that's not very special, is it? There's a lot of people in this world. Most of them you shouldn't be with, and that's fine. Just remember how much this "dating" phase sucks when you do find that one.

Fast forward to years into marriage. Life changes, you know every flaw this person has. You're with eachother day in and day out and they can annoy you like no one else on earth can. But you know what? In a time where you wouldn't even give most people a second date, this person got a third, a fourth, a fifth date. Then you decided to be their boyfriend or girlfriend. Then you wanted your friends and family to meet them. Then they proposed and you said YES. That's crazy! You got to the point where they offered you FOREVER, a terrifying thought in the past, and you actually said yes! So maybe all these failed dating experiences, all the guys that sucked, the girls that think "some other girl will be really lucky to have you", they're all there to show you just how special the RIGHT one is. They'll be there the rest of your life to remind you that yes, your spouse isn't perfect, and no one is, but compared to everyone else, they sure were close, miles ahead of the curve, and that's why you actually said yes. Turns out all those people you didn't love or didn't love you back make real, true, selfless love so incredibly amazing. So keep your head up. This is part of it, and if you keep the right attitude, the story could end exactly how you want it to.

Maybe Grandma is on to something. This was too sappy. I'm still super single so if all this is wrong, don't get mad at me. I'm trying!! And now I want pizza. NO NOT THAT PIZZA REALLY A REAL ACTUAL PIZZA.